The Positive vs. The Negative--My 3 Steps to Finding Sunshine Again

How do you handle the struggles in your life? For me, problems seem to come in waves. Lately, tidal. Signs from the universe that I know are telling me to slow down and take a load off. Spend some time alone and stop trying so hard to make things work when they are supposed to be lessons and never meant to work out in the first place. It's all about the takeaway and how we use what we have learned from life's trials and tribulations. How do we react next time? How do we apply what we've learned to our day-to-day lives? A negative will always be a positive if we can make it through the temporary frustration and pain to reach the lesson.

Generally, I have a tendency when things aren't going my way to spew out even more positive energy into the world than normal, because I need badly for it to be returned to me--always works, by the way. BUT when complete and total exhaustion hit and I don't have the energy, things slide backwards and I stop doing the things I know I should to take care of myself. When my cup is full all I want to do is share the love I have inside of me with everyone I encounter and be a source of warmth and compassion! But when it is empty, it is very hard to give. We are human. Our physical bodies' primary objective is to achieve homeostasis. This is also true of our spirits when it comes to finding balance in our lives.

I believe so much in synchronicity and in the connection that we all have. I was recently told in a phone conversation with my mom how positive I am all of the time. Little did she know that I had just been at my lowest point in some time just prior to her call. This has been happening to me a lot lately. Put out there what you need and you will already have it. Reach out and ask for help and you will find the reassurance that you need.

Here is my personal three step "program" to making it through and finding your sunshine again, even when it feels like the end of the line. Disclaimer: easier said than done, but you can do ANYTHING!

1. Live it. Totally feel whatever you are going through and dealing with in your life. If it hurts, cry. Sleep. Treat yourself. Journal--blog ;). Be alone. Ignore your phone. Disappear if you need to. Seek therapy. Do not set limits on what you need to do to heal, nothing is black and white. You WILL move on eventually if you acknowledge your pain! 2. Love it. Sometimes, life is ugly and the way that we react to life can be even uglier. Sometimes, it is super embarrassing. The very best thing you can do is say to yourself "Pain, I see you and I see how much of a hot mess you are making me right now. This terrible hole is dark and wet and slimy, but I know what it feels like to feel happy and excited about the future, and I have the power to get back to that place again. This is okay and this is temporary. This is part of my journey. Everyone else is on a journey and I am beautiful--as unconvincing as it looks." Part of loving yourself is seeking connection. We all need to connect to one another emotionally, intellectually, physically. Reach out to a friend or start a conversation with someone new. You may be shocked and encouraged by what you have in common. 3. Use it. This is the hardest step, but most rewarding. If you can use your pain, you can get through anything. During my training session yesterday, my coach looked at me after I KILLED my last snatch to overhead press and said "Elle, you got mad...I saw that." Yep. Yes I did. And I did something really awesome with it too. Turn your pain into something. All you have to do is begin and the rest will follow.

Don't forget to laugh at yourself. Stop being so serious! The stuff that happens in life, when you step back and take a look at it, can actually be really humorous. I am currently working on step number three. We are all in this together. <3

Elle WhiteAugust 15, 2016Comment

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